Divorce is one of those things that can buckle your knees and throw you into what appears to be an out of control hopeless situation. For many of us our families become our lives to the extent that it is all we live for, it is our purpose. When disaster strikes and the family unit is broken your options are relatively limited; you can either feel sorry for yourself while going nowhere or you can reevaluate your life and change your perspective.
After my divorce, the smoke cleared, I was forced to change my perspective on who I was, wanted to be and where I needed to go. I took a long hard look at my values and what mattered most to me. This was an eye-opening experience, and there were many things that I had to consider; one of which was – who was my true God? Did I measure life by my possessions, success at work, money and even family? I know one thing for sure; my relationship with God was not what it should have been – not even close.
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There is no doubt that we all want to be winners and in all actuality we are. However, when life throws us a curve ball, our self-importance or significance could become a bit skewed. I am not referring to the way we think of ourselves compared to man but the way God views us; through His loving eyes. In the eyes of God, we are winners; we are His children, and each of us has a purpose.
I know after my divorce I felt more like a failure than a winner. I even addressed it in the article, “Am I a Failure”.
With the New Year approaching it is as good a time as any to change the way you think about yourself. New Year’s resolutions are always being made only to be broken. So might I suggest that you take this time to truly set some short-term goals that you are going to keep and may one of those be that you are a winner?
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I was contemplating lately whether I have been making progress in my life towards meeting my goals. Because of this website, I can remember years ago when I felt devastated and alone. I felt like such a failure! Of course, now I know that isn’t the case, but I still find myself reading the same types of books. Books that focus on obtaining success through becoming what we think about. I am not talking about financial success. However, that is a part of it. I am talking about living a healthy life that is success driven by our relationships, work, families, and community.
Every book I have read seems to focus on the same principles, and I find that comforting. They even tie into what the bible talks about as far as living life in the present, having joy and peace. I have struggled with all these things in the past, especially after the divorce. Even today they crop their ugly head because let me tell you… if you have children with your ex-spouse they NEVER go away. You are always going to have to deal with them to some extent, and the more emotionally healthy you are, the better. And that is what these books have helped me to achieve.
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