We all want to achieve a level of happiness and success where we aren’t dependent on anyone or anything, but unfortunately, that is always possible. It seems as life throws a couple of curve balls our way we begin to tighten our grip on the things we fear losing the most. The tighter you squeeze, the faster it slips between your fingers, and there is nothing you can do to stop it.
As I look back on a few hurdles in my life, I see where things played out exactly like this. The harder I tried to hold on to marriage, my wife no longer wanted, the worse it got. Until finally during a counseling session, it was suggested to me to let her go. Then it was money; I wanted more of it to provide a better life for my daughter, but the more frugal I became it seemed there was always something to hit me in the pocketbook; high gas prices, car repair, medical bill, etc. I stopped giving to church and charity to try and get where I wanted to be, however, that place never came. Then I decided to look for a new relationship and everywhere I went I had that one thought (goal) to meet someone. This became quite frustrating as it seemed nearly impossible to find the happiness I craved. Forcing it or being too needy only made things worse. Everyone told me that I would find love when I wasn’t looking for it… bleh!
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It is every person’s goal to find happiness and feel important. Often people go through life never knowing what it is like to truly be happy because they are chasing after the wrong things, like the superficial things of the world that never satisfy.
Going through a divorce or suffering from a significant loss can make a person feel they will never be happy again. Self-talk, like “My life is terrible.” reflects these feelings and creates what is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Finding happiness is nearly impossible without the right mindset and you need to understand it is your thoughts and self-talk that directs your life and how you feel.
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“It’s not what happens to You, but how you react to it that matters.” – Epictetus
I have been through a lot in my life. I have made many bad choices and gone down path after path that only lead to pain and suffering. The sad part is, these were all choices that I made. I was too good to listen to anyone that wanted to help me, and I was in control of my life, so I thought. I was only kidding myself. That was until I realized just how bad off I was and in need of God – a God that would rescue me from my self-destructive nature and selfishness.
I would have thought by the time I got divorced nothing would have phased me. To my surprise, it floored me! Emotional pain is one of the worst, if not the worst, type of pain that I ever had to deal with and there aren’t many things that hurt more than a supposed life-long partner walking out. I persevered, I grew, and most importantly I learned.
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