It doesn’t matter if the marriage was dysfunctional, volatile or loveless, after divorce, coming home and not being with your spouse can take some getting used too. We have become accustomed to life with them; we have developed habits and routines that affect our lives daily.
Don’t let the awkwardness of being alone or the never-ending household chores tempt you into making poor decisions. Life after divorce is different, but it isn’t necessarily bad once you work through the grief and begin to rebuild your life.
It is interesting how the human mind works at times; I have broken a few bad habits and addictions in my life, and my mind would try to convince me there was some benefit into not giving it up. The same happened after divorce, all I would focus on was what I did not have any more, the good times and my loneliness. When I quit smoking I had to continually remind myself that it was killing me, that there was no benefit to me in any way – I needed to be realistic! The same goes for living life after divorce; you can’t focus on what you don’t have anymore, and you need to keep things in perspective.
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Not long ago I was sitting in the middle of a grass field, grateful that the rain had stopped for a day, feeling the warmth of the sun beating down on me and enjoying a Sheryl Crow concert (thought she would be taller). As the night progressed, I came to the realization my life was back on track and there was normalcy about it, I was having fun, and I was smiling!
I am sure life has been treating me well for some time now, but I guess with all the “to dos” I had not noticed just how happy I was. It was this moment that penetrated the stress and daily distractions which made me realize I am doing “A” okay.
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Life after divorce is different. There are so many things to get used to again or have to learn to do on your own. Loneliness is a significant factor in life after divorce. When it comes to Christian life after a divorce, I have seen it go both ways, in my life and those that I have talked too. Many people question God and wonder how this could happen – why didn’t He stop it?
Over time, things begin to change as your emotional state becomes manageable and instead of blaming God or being angry with Him we tend to allow more of Him in. On the other hand, some people turn their backs on Him completely, running after the things of the world and self-gratification.
I experienced, many others too, what seemed like a spiritual awakening after divorce. I was able to see His love, mercy, and compassion for me. I was humbled by His forgiveness and was able to forgive myself and my ex. I felt closer to God than I had ever before.
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Day by day as you go on and on, as you gain momentum, as your inspiration deepens, as your plans become a reality, you will realize that your life and this world is no longer the desolate and hurtful place that it once used to feel like. As God works in your heart, you will realize that the earth is a living thing. It is made up of beating hearts and is a thing of life and beauty.
As you walk away from ground zero, the day your spouse left, you will face trials and feel many mixed emotions, but as time creeps on eventually things will improve and you will come to a new understanding, you will be inspired by a new light, gain confidence and power each day. You will have new hopes and dreams that will come true while your life takes on a deeper, fuller, clearer meaning than before.
God wants nothing but the best for you, but you have to want it for yourself as well. You have to let God in, and you have to do your part. Everything takes work and the harder you work, the more rewarding it will be. Hopeful living after divorce is not a pipe dream; it is a reality that will happen when you put your mind to it.
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Its been 5 weeks since my wife seperated from me. The first few weeks were unbearable. How I got through them I can only explain through the grace of God. As each day passed, the load got lighter. Sure the boulder was still there, but I was able to move. Since she left, I have been reading my bible 3 times a day, I’m constantly praying and I’m keeping myself busy. One night I really felt the lord pushing me to read Job. I am just engrossed with his life. He lost everything, and yet still feared the Lord. Today I read a great verse, Job 28:28.
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