What is commitment? In the most basic sense, commitment is a pledge, promise, or an obligation. Everyone has commitments; we are committed to paying our bills, keeping our word, showing up to work, picking the children up from school and half a million other things. Commitment is also a major part of marriage, and a relationship is broken if commitment falls apart.
Marriage was always intended to be a one time and life-long kind of deal. If you married in your twenties you could easily be with your partner for over 50 years – that is a long and major commitment to make. Duty is always a choice; it shouldn’t come with strings attached and should be unconditional. You commit to parenting regardless of how your child behaves.
If only everyone viewed committing to their spouse as the honor and privilege, it is! It takes commitment to make it through the tough times and cherish the good ones. However, commitment comes with a price. When you get married, you are required to give up a part of yourself to your spouse. You begin placing their needs before your own and learn to live with each other’s differences. As you and your spouse work through issues and problems, you have the opportunity to learn more about your partner, develop your character and acquire new strengths.
As much as you may think you know a person before marriage, you still have a lot to learn, and people change over time. Commitment doesn’t seek to fulfill personal, lustful and selfish needs. If you are struggling in your marriage or thinking about getting married, it is critical to think about what commitment means to you. Are you willing to do what it takes to make your marriage work? If your marriage feels loveless, then you may want to consider examining your level of commitment. If you have sin in your life that is keeping you from having a fruitful marriage you need to give it up; give up the booze, the cheating, the neglect, misplaced priorities and remember the promise and commitment you made when you said, “I do.”